Sunday, December 19, 2004

And Just What Am I Supposed To Do???

Brother Geoff emailed me today. ***A little background*** Geoff is a fuck up. A royal fuck up. He is 46 years old and has never had a *real* job. He has always done handyman type stuff, because he doesn't want to get drug tested. He is a loser, a drunk and a pot head. He has always blamed everyone else for his problems. Nothing is ever his fault. He's been that way as long as I can remember. I really don't have anything to do with him. We have nothing in common except for the fact that we had the same parents. I haven't seen him in probably 4 years or so....and have heard from him twice in that time being today.

Anyway........he emails me today. His wife left him and took their youngest son with her (he's about 15) He is devastated. He tells me he is going to lose his house, he'll be homeless and he's all alone with no one to talk to. (He has always been overly dramatic as well.....I don't know how much, if any of that is true ) He said he's never been alone. All his friends are users (drugs/alcohol). He wants to 'be a family again'. What he wants is someone to take care of bail him out of his troubles. I CAN'T. I just can't. He can't come here, if that's what he is looking for.


I don't know what to do. I haven't replied to him.....I don't even know what to say:(


Pez said...

{{hugs}} Shelly. You are doing the right thing by not enabling him. I'll keep Geoff and you in my thoughts and prayers.

Kimmer said...

Shelly, you can't save him. It would be nice if you could, but you can't.

I'm sure he is scared and sad to realize how he's screwed up his life, but that isn't your fault, nor your responsibility.

You can sympathize: "I'm sorry you're going through this - it must be really hard." But don't offer to get in the middle by talking to his wife or giving him a place to stay. He's an adult, and if he wants to turn his life around, he can and he will. You can tell him that, too.

I hereby absolve you of any guilt about this, because it's not your burden.

MKhan said...

Shelly, u don't know me. But i was blog hopping n i landed on urz. All i can say is, Be Strong. Dunt noe how useful dat is to u but, i hope everything works out for you.

Mada frm S'pore

Shelly said...

Thanks everyone.

Denine, thanks for the prayers....Kimmer, thank you for absolving me of guilt. I needed that:)